My son is studying in Thakur international school ICSE in Nursery.Just 3 years of age.On 21st of July 2014 after his return from school, he hugged me tight & cried & told me that 'Krupali teacher & Neeta teacher' shouted at him.I have been noticing him playing with his penis, scrotum saying 'these are chocolate"& upon asking who told you this he would say"Krupali teacher".so that day just before going to bed, I asked him in detail since he was complaining of pain in the penis.He mentioned that both the teachers were playing with those chocolate balls & pressed it hard.I asked him to show how it was done.He put his hand inside the shorts in to the diaper & said "like this" Upon asking more he said they ask me to put my hands on their duddu(breasts) & do it to other children also.I have been noticing him saying " shall I put the chalk in your bum" & puts his fingers in mine to show it & that this is done in presence of Didi's(the maids).2nd day-he told me 'Krupali teacher does it & Neeta teacher laughs loudly with folded hands".3rd day-I asked him where does it take place because he keeps saying 'Didi isko washroom leke jao".He said washroom, mausi Didi takes to the washroom, Krupali & Neeta follow.They ask me to keep my hands on the table & do it (touch the penis)
Before the May vacation, once he came back from school in the school bus, got down, hugged me tight, cried a lot & he had absolutely no control over his face expressions, his face was shaking continuosly.so after the school reopened on 3rd June 2014, I met his class teacher Krupali on the 11th June 2014(before the PTM-Parents Teachers meeting).Got to meet her after so much difficulty.My son told me that 'I'm scared of the teacher, she shouts".The teacher admitted & mentioned about him vomiting everyday for the full month of April.Why wasn't I told about this?His clothes were never dirty, never changed.I was told he is possessive about his bag & that the teacher has to shout to which I understood.I requested the teacher to go easy on him.Had taken my son alongwith me so she told him "you told Mamma that I shout at you' I told her"please don't pick up on him because of what he said & don't think that let his mother go & then I'll see you"He was a little relaxed to go to school.But again the same thing started.He's scared, refuses to go, lost appetite, aloof, crying, falling sick repeatedly(vomiting, loose motions etc), Irritated, angry, can't sleep.This has been the case ever since April since he joined school.We thought its a new school, he 'll take time to adjust maybe he has motion sickness so I started dropping him to school. But we went by road for a holiday he doesn't have motion sickness.
I've always made sure that there is no fear or any kind of restriction on him.He is a happy child by nature.But now he is scared & takes permission for every small thing.I mentioned this to Krupali when I met her that his normal crying & the 'School crying' is different.His tears rolling down the cheeks, crying silently in pain thinking 'why can't my parents understand & sending me to school?', feeling ashamed, embarrassed.He wakes up with nightmares, crying, saying 'Im scared of the teacher'.Krupali agreed to co-operate.After reaching home, he told me 'Didi's slap me on cheeks & Mouth' I wrote a note about this.The head mistress wrote a note back saying there are many students & pls don't write big notes.
In every PTM, both the teachers always praise my son on his abilities to learn & good behaviour.on 1st aug 2014 the recent PTM, Neeta teacher mentioned the same except that he has become mischevious.
Considering all these, I called up the principal's office for an appointment & met her on 24th july.She assured me that she would help after going through the CCTV camera footages & call me up.She called up the next day saying they watched the cctv footages of 21st july mon & a couple of days at random & didn't find anything.I was expecting this answer since anybody who is doing this to my child is well aware about cctv cameras & the blind spots.There are places where the cameras can't reach. The headmistress interrupted a lot during this meeting.She wasn't allowing me to talk saying that my son is so naughty so obviously his teachers must be shouting at him and thats why he won't like attending school, how can a 3 year old talk about this so clearly, etc
I started dropping him & picking up from the school so that he is at ease.My husband being out of the country at the moment made it a bit difficult.so didn't go ahead with the police complaint.Also my son & myself were unwell.We thought since we've put it across the principal, they will do something about it.I realised on the 1st aug 2014 PTM that my son's class was changed.It was next to his previous class but Neeta was his teacher.
But was horrified yesterday i.e 5th Aug 2014 .Upon pickup from school, my son again hugged me & said "went up the lift, the door opened'.I asked "did you go for dance class?".He didn't reply.He was quiet in the rickshaw & told me "mamma, Krupali teacher & Neeta teacher touched me down there(his penis)."I couldn't believe it & told him its not true is it?"I asked him "didn't you tell them 'DON'T TOUCH, POLICE/ I'LL TELL MAMMA, NO, DON'T DO IT'.He said" I did & Neeta Teacher put her hand on her face & said "O my god! " & slapped me on my cheeks because I didn't allow them to touch but they still did".He mentioned they said"Are iska toh operation hua hai(oh he has been operated)" My son was circumcised & has never heard the word operation before.Then he said"Are idhar wi-fi hai (there is wi-fi here)" I asked him where did they do it, he couldn't explain the place & told me it was done after 'eating Tiffin'.After reaching home, I was undressing him & was shocked to see his diaper was half torn.I asked him whether he was taken to the washroom, he said"No".He's been crying & very angry, sad.
I have been teaching him all this while that 'don't allow anyone to touch you down at the penis, bum, don't allow anyone to kiss you on the lips or touch you on your chest because everyday he tells me rather gives me inputs on this issue eg- one day he held my lower lip, closed his eyes & kissed me on my lips.I asked him 'where did you see this baby?". He replied, "Krupali teacher does this to me". Another day there was some kissing scene on the TV, I saw him watching it & changed the channel, he tells me"Mamma, see krupali teacher does this to me".He is unable to forget it.He says he wants to go to his dad to another country.I told him that he will have to go to school even if its another country.He is ready for that.But doesn't want to go to this school.When asked about this happening to other students in his class he says 'yes'.I called up other parents to ask their children however most of them are 2 1l2 or still not 3 yrs, unable to talk properly even if they can talk they can't describe properly.
Just called up the school for the principal's appointment & also to meet the board of trustees, was told that the principal is busy & cannot meet till the 14th of aug 2014 inspite of knowing the seriousness of the issue.
We got our child admitted to this school since it was highly recommended.
I am sure we get JUSTICE and the board of trustees, the school authorities look in to this matter with urgency and take appropriate measures against this since this is a serious matter and can happen to any one-not only to my child but to other children in the school- for the sake of hundreds of those innocent children whose parents send their children thinking they will be safe in school.what message does this incident convey to the children specially my son, how will he have faith in anybody /anything in life, how will he cope up dealing with teachers in future?"Gurur Bramha Gurur Visnu, Gurur devoo maheshwarah, gurur sakshaat parabramha tasmai shri guruvey namaha"if this is what we have learnt from childhood, what do I tell my child?
" APPEALING FOR JUSTICE !! "