[Resolved]  Thakur International School Icse — My son's teachers (including Didi's) touching him inappropriately especially his private parts

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Mumbai City, Maharashtra

My son is studying in Thakur
international school ICSE in Nursery.Just 3 years of age.On 21st of July 2014
after his return from school, he hugged me tight & cried & told me that
'Krupali teacher & Neeta teacher' shouted at him.I have been
noticing him playing with his penis, scrotum saying 'these are
chocolate"& upon asking who told you this he would say"Krupali teacher".so that day just before
going to bed, I asked him in detail since he was complaining of pain in the
penis.He mentioned that both the teachers were playing with those chocolate
balls & pressed it hard.I asked him to show how it was done.He put his hand
inside the shorts in to the diaper & said "like this" Upon asking
more he said they ask me to put my hands on their duddu(breasts) & do it to other children
also.I have been noticing him saying " shall I put the chalk in your
bum" & puts his fingers in mine to show it & that this is done in
presence of Didi's(the maids).2nd day-he
told me 'Krupali teacher does it & Neeta teacher laughs loudly with folded
hands".3rd day-I asked him where does it take place because he keeps
saying 'Didi isko washroom leke
jao".He said washroom, mausi Didi takes to the washroom, Krupali & Neeta
follow.They ask me to keep my hands on the table & do it (touch the penis)
Before the May vacation, once he came back from school in the school bus, got
down, hugged me tight, cried a lot & he had absolutely no control over his
face expressions, his face was shaking continuosly.so after the school reopened
on 3rd June 2014, I met his class teacher Krupali
on the 11th June 2014(before the PTM-Parents Teachers meeting).Got to meet her
after so much difficulty.My son told me that 'I'm scared of the teacher, she
shouts".The teacher admitted & mentioned about him vomiting everyday
for the full month of April.Why wasn't I told about this?His clothes were never
dirty, never changed.I was told he is possessive about his bag & that the
teacher has to shout to which I understood.I requested the teacher to go easy
on him.Had taken my son alongwith me so
she told him "you told Mamma that I
shout at you' I told her"please don't pick up on him because of what he
said & don't think that let his mother go & then I'll see you"He was a little relaxed to go
to school.But again the same thing started.He's scared, refuses to go, lost
appetite, aloof, crying, falling sick repeatedly(vomiting, loose motions
etc), Irritated, angry, can't sleep.This has been the case ever since April since
he joined school.We thought its a new school, he 'll take time to adjust maybe he has motion
sickness so I started dropping him to school. But we went by road for a holiday
he doesn't have motion sickness.
I've always made sure that there is no
fear or any kind of restriction on him.He is a happy child by nature.But now he
is scared & takes permission for every small thing.I mentioned this to Krupali when I met her that his normal crying
& the 'School crying' is different.His tears rolling down the cheeks, crying
silently in pain thinking 'why can't my parents understand & sending me to
school?', feeling ashamed, embarrassed.He
wakes up with nightmares, crying, saying 'Im
scared of the teacher'.Krupali agreed to
co-operate.After reaching home, he told me 'Didi's
slap me on cheeks & Mouth' I wrote a note about this.The head mistress
wrote a note back saying there are many students & pls don't write big notes.
In every PTM, both the teachers always praise my son on his abilities to learn
& good behaviour.on 1st aug 2014 the
recent PTM, Neeta teacher mentioned the
same except that he has become mischevious.
Considering all these, I called up the principal's
office for an appointment & met her on 24th july.She assured me that she
would help after going through the CCTV camera footages
& call me up.She called up the next day saying they watched the cctv footages
of 21st july mon & a couple of days at random &
didn't find anything.I was expecting this answer since anybody who is doing
this to my child is well aware about cctv
cameras & the blind spots.There are places where the cameras can't reach.
The headmistress interrupted a lot during this meeting.She wasn't allowing me
to talk saying that my son is so naughty so obviously his teachers must be
shouting at him and thats why he won't
like attending school, how can a 3 year old talk about this so clearly, etc
I started dropping him & picking up from the school so that he is at
ease.My husband being out of the country at the moment made it a bit
difficult.so didn't go ahead with the police complaint.Also my son & myself
were unwell.We thought since we've put it across the principal, they will do
something about it.I realised on the 1st aug
2014 PTM that my son's class was changed.It was next to his previous class but Neeta was his teacher.
But was horrified yesterday i.e 5th Aug 2014 .Upon pickup from school, my
son again hugged me & said "went up the lift, the door opened'.I asked
"did you go for dance class?".He didn't reply.He was quiet in the
rickshaw & told me "mamma, Krupali teacher & Neeta teacher touched me down there(his
penis)."I couldn't believe it & told him its not true is it?"I
asked him "didn't you tell them 'DON'T TOUCH, POLICE/ I'LL TELL
MAMMA, NO, DON'T DO IT'.He said" I did & Neeta
Teacher put her hand on her face & said "O my god! " &
slapped me on my cheeks because I didn't allow them to touch but they still
did".He mentioned they said"Are iska
toh operation hua hai(oh
he has been operated)" My son was circumcised & has never heard the
word operation before.Then he said"Are idhar
wi-fi
hai (there is wi-fi
here)" I asked him where did they do it, he couldn't explain the place
& told me it was done after 'eating Tiffin'.After reaching home, I was
undressing him & was shocked to see his diaper was half torn.I asked him
whether he was taken to the washroom, he said"No".He's been crying &
very angry, sad.
I have been teaching him all this while that 'don't allow anyone to touch you
down at the penis, bum, don't allow anyone to kiss you on the lips or touch you
on your chest because everyday he tells me rather gives me inputs on this issue
eg- one day he held my lower lip, closed
his eyes & kissed me on my lips.I asked him 'where did you see this
baby?". He replied, "Krupali
teacher does this to me". Another day there was some kissing scene on the
TV, I saw him watching it & changed the channel, he tells me"Mamma, see krupali
teacher does this to me".He is unable to forget it.He says he wants to go
to his dad to another country.I told him that he will have to go to school even
if its another country.He is ready for that.But doesn't want to go to this
school.When asked about this happening to other students in his class he says
'yes'.I called up other parents to ask their children however most of them are
2 1l2 or still not 3 yrs, unable to talk properly even if they can talk they
can't describe properly.
Just called up the school for the principal's
appointment & also to meet the board of trustees, was told that the
principal is busy & cannot meet till the 14th of aug 2014 inspite
of knowing the seriousness of the issue.
We got our child admitted to this school since it was highly recommended.
I am sure we get JUSTICE and the board of trustees, the school authorities look
in to this matter with urgency and take appropriate measures against this since
this is a serious matter and can happen to any one-not only to my child but to
other children in the school- for the sake of hundreds of those innocent
children whose parents send their children thinking they will be safe in
school.what message does this incident convey to the children specially my
son, how will he have faith in anybody /anything in life, how will he cope up
dealing with teachers in future?"Gurur
Bramha Gurur
Visnu, Gurur
devoo maheshwarah, gurur sakshaat
parabramha tasmai shri
guruvey namaha"if
this is what we have learnt from childhood, what do I tell my child?
" APPEALING FOR JUSTICE !! "

Bhairavi Prabhu